She asked me, “How do you discover the one person?”
I told her, “Narrow your focus, everyone isn’t worth your time”.
She said, “What if my focus is too narrow and I miss out on that person?”
I said, “What if you focus on too many and you take the person that you should narrow on for granted, and lose them?”
I continued, “When we are younger we have the ability to mix and match because we are discovering who we are, but as we age, we get a better understanding of who we are so our circles shrink, and become more person centered and Like minded.”
She said, “I never thought of it like that, I put one egg in several baskets and my basket is never fulfilled”
I said, “Great Analogy”
She said, “Thanks but how do you know it’s the one?”
I said, “When you admire them even when you’re angry with them. When they give you hope daily and take away doubt.” “It simple, you know when their principles make you want to build a home with them”
When talking to a group of men about women, I noticed that they feel stressed out about their inability to be heard. They feel they spend more time trying not to get into a fight as opposed to finding solutions. They all mentioned how they are guilty until proven innocent when it comes to women. They all said “I can’t win an argument with a woman”. I told them, ” the problem is y’all are trying to win, Communication nor a relationship shouldn’t be about winning or losing, but two people working toward a solution that will suit both parties. I went on to say, “you think women aren’t listening, but if you go into the discussion believing they can’t hear you, aren’t they guilty until being proven innocent also. They all just looked at me in silence, I said “Relationships are about thinking the best of your partner and believing the best will come out of having a honest discussion”….. I understand it’s easier said than done, but if it isn’t done, then your relationship will be done!
Bitterness stems from being sweetened by artificial sweeteners. Going into a relationship with a person that sprints out the gate at a pace that is impossible to keep up for the long run. Dating potential, instead of a finished product; wanting things in your mate they never promised or exhibited in the first place. People play victim in their relationships, instead of taking responsibility for the things they seen but chose to ignore. Well, my approach is to give a person a full perspective of what they are getting into. I express where I have been, where I am, and where I want to go. People say the past doesn’t matter, but it shaped you into the person you are presently; and if I don’t understand your journey, how am I suppose to understand you? People say just let things flow naturally, yet it’s in our nature to want to know where we are going before we take the ride. I want to hear about your struggles, your triumphs, your goals, and your purpose. I will be all in your business; I hate small talk. If you believe that is too aggressive, then we are unequally yoked. I deserve a person who is willing to match my all with their all. Secrets are designed for strangers, and if you want to get to know me, reveal yourself. I don’t want to fall for a representative when I can stand side by side with authenticity. Most test the water before jumping in, but I came to swim and I trust that the temperature is just right. Let’s build a friendship so the worst that can happen is we end as friends. People, let’s stop playing games like we were the only ones who got hurt, when that’s just a manipulation to encourage someone to prove themselves to us. The truth is, we are a product of our choices. If we don’t ask questions then they won’t give answers; if we date a thug, they will be a thug; if they are stuck up they will be stuck up….If you shop for what you want, you will get exactly what you want. When you know what you want, it may take longer to find; but, once you get it, maintain it, or it will be easier to lose. When you are truly ready for Love, you won’t be afraid of the pain because you will know yourself well enough to put yourself in a place of Love. Remember, both parties are taking the same risk; so if you like the music, dance to the song and work a lifetime to see eye to eye by keeping each other engaged and married to honesty!!!!
Empowering you to speak, also means that you have to listen, or risk contradicting everything that might force you to admit that you never were fighting for freedom of speech, but just to be heard. Empowering you to open up means, I have to do everything in my power to ensure you never close; I must mark my words, stamp my actions, and enhance your spirit. I must breathe an existence that causes you to grasp for air. Empowering you means empowering me, because together we have the power to fulfill a purpose one can never fill!!!!
The games people play to start and end relationships; time is of the essence, yet we waste the times that could be essential. When a heart beat skips in the presence of a person, get everything in line to be with them; being a part of their life will be one of the greatest achievements in your life. Attempting to preserve a relationship with a person that causes your heart to murmur will create an endless blackness that will allow you to see the light faster than expected. Why fool around with days that can be spent avoiding being around fools? Why not spend days cuddling in the arms of forever? Barack Obama has achieved the highest honor in the world, and I would bet my life that his Greatest accomplishments are marrying his wife and giving birth to his family. We have to stop taking for granted the simple pleasures; the daily bread that sandwiches us between appropriating Life and having a dishonorable death. Our relationships should always have cause so the outcomes will always have a positive effect. Let’s leave the games for competitive sport and use our relationships to construct one team!!!!